Tuesday, February 22, 2011

Alzheimer Widow

I wonder how many of you are out there - partners of people living with Alzheimer ?

Today is our 19th wedding anniversary. My husband Paul was at home until he fell and broke his hip in October. Now he is in long term care. Putting him there was devastating for me but it was the only safe choice for him and probably for me too. Actually he has adjusted very well. The staff is wonderful and Paul was born with a happy spirit and I doubt he knows where he is.

But for me it has created a lonely space in our home and in my heart. A space different from the 9 years we lived together with the disease; a space of wondering "Who am I now?" Where do I fit in?" "What will I do?"

I was comforted by the verse: "For surely I know the plans I have for you, says the Lord, plans for your welfare and not for harm, to give you a future with hope."